I especially like this paragraph:
Love can never be made safe. It is the opposite of safe. The moment you try to make it safe, it ceases to be love. I realize this is a bummer, but think about it. Love is predicated on receptivity, on opening up again and again and again to your beloved, each time afresh. To do this, you have to let go of insisting that he or she conform to your standards for what a lover should look like, do, be, or say, and instead allow him or her to simply be him or herself. Then you take it from there. To do otherwise, to continually choose who you wish this person was over who he or she actually is, is, well, it's not love. I don't know what it is. (Of course none of this stands to reason should any form of emotional or physical abuse be present. At this point you can forget everything I just said and protect yourself.)
And this quote by American Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron, is priceless:
"Feel the feelings. Drop the story."
How to do this? The article has a few suggestions:
1. Develop a non-judgmental relationship with your mind.
2. Stabilize your heart in the open state.
3. View your whole life as path.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing this, David.
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